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Several years ago I began to reflect on the countless number of times in my past life that I’d reacted negatively to the antics of another. It seems as if some people really have a knack for finding every pushable button we have and making sure to mash them regularly. To be able to recognize this skill set of the “button patrol members” as I like to call them is certainly an acquired ability all of its own. …


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Leadership as we know it was put to the ultimate test in 2020. With all of the great information out there in books and the internet to help leaders survive, something was missing. What wasn’t out there was how to manage the gut-punch we all received in 2020 due to the pandemic caused by COVID-19. Add in civil unrest, large numbers of unemployed people, small businesses closing, racial tensions, and a highly contested election it feels like we are living in some sort of alter world. Who would have imagined we’d be dealing with all of this in the same year? Then, to boot, hurricanes and tropical storm season decided to throw in enough storms to blow through the alphabet and cause those who name them to resort to the Greek alphabet. All of this has pushed people entirely to the point of “I don’t know how much more I can take” pretty much every day. …


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The 2020 Primary Election did not storm through without stress. A lot of people thought once their ballots were cast that the unrest we were all feeling would magically go away in a day or two. This of course is not the case.

A quick perusal through any social media platform will show that people are still arguing over candidates and policies. Many arguments have become so distorted that people are ending up in Twitter jail, suspended from Facebook, reporting and blocking posts as well as leaving various online groups and ending virtual and real-life friendships. Some have decided the best way to deal with it all is to not deal with it and abandon their online accounts temporarily. …


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I was talking to a lady the other day about our current climate relating to racial tensions in the United States. She was angry. It really bothered her that many people were saying things like “I didn’t know it was that bad” or “This is the first time I realized what you all were going through.” She even noted how she’d been tapped as the “black friend” to help her non-black friends understand things so they could feel better about what was going on. This lady, like many others, indicated it wasn’t her job to help these folks figure out THEIR problem. I asked her, whose job it was and how she thought they should go about it? At that very moment she broke down and it was clear that she had reached her breaking point filled with frustration, exasperation, fear, and hurt. She was stuck! …


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At last glance, when I searched for the #selfcare on Instagram, there were over 36 million posts with that hashtag. It seems there are a lot of people practicing it, providing it, or both. Either way, it’s a pretty popular thing people are thinking about. I’d imagine if I looked on other platforms, there would be a similar result. And though the thought of self-care is often thought of for women, it is really a non-gender related concept.

With that in mind, we know that self-care is front and center in the minds of many. However, just because we think about it, does not mean we are doing it. Self-care is an action, not just a noun. It requires us to actively care for ourselves. What that looks like for each of us can be different. The way it impacts each of us can be different. One common thing is that most people have ups and downs in their consistency with their self-care. What if you had a way to be sure you took this seriously every day? …


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Thinking of diversity and inclusion has gotten old for a lot of people. Some may think “ok I’ve hired people of all different races and backgrounds, isn’t that enough? “ Or they may think “ what more do you want from me at this point?”

It’s really not about what more people want from you, as it is what you can gain from understanding that intercultural competency is a win for yourself, your community, family, organization, and the world. A simple story in metaphor to help articulate this may help. Imagine you inherited a restaurant offering food to the public. The only product in your restaurant toolbox, however, is egg yolks. You are tasked with finding creative ways to use them every single day for a month. The only things you have at your disposal besides the egg yolks are fry pans, cooking oil, and milk. How many days can you find something new to do with them without adding any other ingredients? I’d imagine this would get old very quickly and most would give up. Would you give up altogether or only choose to market to people who liked egg yolks? Then the question is, how many would come to your egg yolks only restaurant? Later you finally decide to add spices. The problem is you throw all the spices in with the eggs at once and expect it to taste like something. …


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Many focus on Diversity Equity and Inclusion concerns in corporate workplaces. That is certainly important for workers and customers. However, in today’s world, we can not forget to be intentional in our focus on the problems with healthcare disparities, punitive inequalities in schools, and biased thinking in non-profit/social-service spaces.

When working in the corporate sector, if the company does not deal with its culture issues, several things can happen. They will eventually have high turnover/attrition rates that cascade down to the level of service they provide for their customers. CEOs and leadership staff can be moved in and out like cars in a parking lot to help with this as well. Now, in the case of a very vanilla company in a very vanilla town that may not be an issue (so they think). Nevertheless, what if that same company decides to expand? It will certainly become an issue and with today’s internet-savvy people that can create a reputation filled with rumors of racism, harassment, unfair policies, gender equity gaps, etc. could spread like wildfire. It may ultimately ruin the company and bring discrimination suits etc. Terrible right? …


Racial Trauma is Thing

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When I decided to add a Trauma-Informed Approaches certificate to my arsenal of professional tools, I had no idea how open my eyes would become. I knew that extreme stress and the situations kids endure were linked to long term maladaptive coping behaviors because of trauma. I eagerly got on the ACEs site to check out the impact of my own adverse child behaviors in anticipation of my new tools. I had no worries because the majority of us have a few of these issues right? There were no surprises there for me. …


Tips to Take Downtime and Turn it Into Success Time

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Since March of this year, things have been so very different for pretty much everyone. Around the world, life changed drastically in the face of COVID0–19. That leaves me with one question. How have YOU changed since the pandemic hit?

It’s obvious this year has been life-altering for sure. Is life the same for you in every aspect that it was before? Are your relationships or career goals any different? So many are dealing with this new way of being and trying to figure out how to create a new sense of calm and normalcy. …


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It would be easy to tell someone that the overwhelm and frustration they feel is something that will pass quickly. It would be easy to tell them their feeling of wanting to disappear would pass easily. The truth is sometimes we just don’t feel ok and if you have a day or two here and there like that you’re in the company of many others who have felt the same way.

2020 has been a really challenging year worldwide. With each month, so many wonder what the heck is coming next while hoping that the only thing coming is good news. It has been tough. It has been different. It has also been eye-opening and life changing. However, with so much going on, I myself have felt many times that I just want to disappear. No more news reports, trending topics or texts about viruses, protesters, riots, job loss etc. Yet, each time I feel that way, I realize that I like you am needed in the world. I have much to offer as do you. …

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Aleasa Word

Trauma-informed #emotionalintelligence coach, diversity consultant & speaker writing about everything to help you live, love, and prosper in the best way!

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